Marriage is very much impossible

Nov 12, 2013 by


phodi jessica


A night before our 6th month into marriage, my husband and I were having a big argument over a simple matter. We rarely fight but when we do the argument usually started right before bedtime. While most of time I can sleep over the issue, poor husband can’t so we have to deal with the issue even if it’s in the middle of the night. Thankfully we rarely fight so we never experience sleep deprivation.

Back to few nights ago, we finally settled the issue and got to sleep straight away. The next morning we woke up and the first thing dear husband said to me was, “This is weird, 2 different people with 2 different characteristics getting married and God asked them to make a covenant with each other! Impossible!” I laughed in agreement, remembering what had happened the night before.

As I think about his remarks, I have to agree that marriage is an impossible concept. This is very much true as divorce is forbidden in the faith we both believe in. But then, my grandparents managed to marry for 50+ years before my grandpa passed away earlier this year. Some others even celebrate their 60th anniversary, so there must be some recipes to make a marriage possible.

I am not anywhere qualified to list down any tips for a happy and successful marriage but I remember some tips that were given to me before I got married.

  1. Patience, lots of it.
  2. Understanding and forgiving. Some habits of your spouse might change, while the rest won’t. Understand that to keep you sane.
  3. Say “thank you”. Things happen because someone works on it, not because of magic. Respect and appreciate things.
  4. Learn to communicate better. It will take a lifetime to polish this skill.
  5. Keep the romance alive. Everyone loves hugs and kisses after a long hectic day.
  6. Above all else, pray that God will continually strengthen the marriage.

The list can go on and on but those are the 6 things that we’ve been improving in the last 6 months, and probably forever. One thing I know for sure, I want to make this marriage possible.

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  1. Jessica

    Hello Uthey!

    We are still learning about this thing called marriage and unfortunately according to our elders, we’ll continue learning as long as we’re married!
    Stay in touch Uthey, nice to know you :) God bless!

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